we're officially one month away from the big [wedding!] day and I'm happy to say I feel like we have it under control...
we've booked and paid for the band, dj and photographer. we've picked out our rentals (linens, flatware, china, etc), set the menu, ordered the alcohol and have started putting together the centerpieces... CRAZY!
Also, we've gotten the majority of RSVPS (only missing 30) and pretty much everyone has their travel and lodging booked and planned! Thank you friends for being on top of it...
So, I figured I'd start sharing some of the wedding planning details with all of you over the next few weeks (which will also remind me what I haven't gotten done yet, oops). This past weekend DJ and I finally sat down and went over the ceremony script - his brothers are officiating the ceremony - since we're already married, it's more just for the sentiment and to share the moment again with family and friends. We went with a pretty straightforward non-secular ceremony with the only religous aspect the breaking of the glass (DJ's mom got us a beautiful glass piece to break which we'll put in a mezuzah she also got us)... we also have some of our close friends doing readings so we also sat down and went through a LOT of readings to find three that we think fit us and what we were looking for...
Here they are --
Reading #1: Can’t Help Falling in Love
written by George Weiss, Hugo Peretti, and Luigi Creatore
written by George Weiss, Hugo Peretti, and Luigi Creatore
Wise men say only fools rush in
but I can't help falling in love with you
Shall I stay, would it be a sin
If I can't help falling in love with you
Like a river flows surely to the sea
Darling so it goes
some things are meant to be
take my hand, take my whole life too
for I can't help falling in love with you
for I can't help falling in love with you
Reading #2: Benediction of the Apaches
“Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness for you.
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one Life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place,
To enter into the days of your togetherness.
And may your days be good and long upon the earth”
Reading #3: Falling In Love Is Like Owning A Dog by Taylor Mali
First of all, it's a big responsibility,
So think long and hard before deciding on love.
On the other hand, love gives you a sense of security:
when you're walking down the street late at night
and you have a leash on love
ain't no one going to mess with you.
Because crooks and muggers think love is unpredictable.
Who knows what love could do in its own defense?
On cold winter nights, love is warm.
It lies between you and lives and breathes
and makes funny noises.
Love wakes you up all hours of the night with its needs.
It needs to be fed so it will grow and stay healthy.
Love doesn't like being left alone for long.
But come home and love is always happy to see you.
It may break a few things accidentally in its passion for life,
but you can never be mad at love for long.
Is love good all the time? No! No!
Love can be bad. Bad, love, bad! Very bad love.
Love makes messes.
Love leaves you little surprises here and there.
Love needs lots of cleaning up after.
Sometimes you just want to get love fixed.
Sometimes you want to roll up a piece of newspaper
and swat love on the nose,
not so much to cause pain,
just to let love know Don't you ever do that again!
Sometimes love just wants to go for a nice long walk.
Because love loves exercise.
It runs you around the block and leaves you panting.
It pulls you in several different directions at once,
or winds around and around you
until you're all wound up and can't move.
But love makes you meet people wherever you go.
People who have nothing in common but love
stop and talk to each other on the street.
Throw things away and love will bring them back,
again, and again, and again.
But most of all, love needs love, lots of it.
And in return, love loves you and never stops.
that last one is my favorite, it's a little longer so we're having one person read the first half and another the second... I think the three together create a good balance of what we're looking for out of the ceremony and hopefully it will make for a memorable and touching ceremony. It was definitely interesting finding three that appealed to both of us and that we hadn't just heard at a wedding (I love the velveteen rabbit reading my friends lindsey and phil did and the blessing of the hands that was done at danny's brothers wedding).
what was your favorite reading at a wedding?
Love the reading! So perfect! The ceremony part is pretty stressful. I hope I'm as put together as you are at the one month mark! You seem so calm!
ReplyDeleteI love the dog reading. I thought about that one for our wedding but we decided no readings and a speedy ceremony ;)
ReplyDeleteI wanted to break glass too! We're not Jewish though...you get to do all the cool stuff!
Dang- you're going all out! ;) My ceremony lasted um... 17 minutes? Maybe only 15? Short and fucking sweet- let's get to the damn party. Mostly because it was in June, it's hot, I hate sitting through weddings and I just assume everyone else does too, etc. THAT and I'm such a terrible person that I make bets at when the divorce proceedings start. Is that bad? Is it even worse that my bets were right the last 3 times? LOL. ;)
ReplyDeleteBut I agree- get everything done as early as you can. The least amount of stress the week of.... the better!